Original Publish Date: February 13, 2014
If you asked me 10 years ago how I felt about marriage, my response would not be positive. I just separated from ex-husband and thought the whole idea of love & marriage was a great big lie. I remember thinking that if this was “it”, then I wanted nothing to do with “it” ever again!
I couldn’t imagine living the rest of my life in such a depressive state, and although my life wasn’t nearly as bad as some, I refused to spend the rest of my life like that. I was too young – not even 27 – and another 50 or 60 years of that was unthinkable.
I was unhappy – plain and simple – and it was time for change.
Fast forward 5 years…. I had learned to find happiness within. I had learned that I didn’t need anyone to complete me. I was fulfilled all on my own. Or so I thought.
I spent those 5 years faking happiness & fulfillment, convincing myself that it were true, until it was.
I can honestly tell you that you must learn to love yourself, independent of another person, and create your own happiness, before you can ever give your love to another.
I had finally found that within myself and I had reached a point in my life where I felt I was completely happy being alone.
And then I met Craig.
I met my husband in January of 2010 and though we have been married only a short time, I know our commitment is forever.
I’ll never be able to tell you if my love for him is stronger because I learned to love myself first, but I can tell you that everyday I feel like I won the “love jackpot” because I could never imagine having a more perfect partner to share this life with.
So in honor of my amazing husband, I wanted to share 14 things that I love about him:
1. He is a gentleman
This was the first impression I had of Craig over our first few dates. He was polite, considerate of others, and kind. He would open doors for me, pull out my chair at restaurants, and always followed the “ladies first” rule. He let me determine how slow or fast our relationship progressed.
And 5 years later, as my husband, he hasn’t changed all that much. Although we are more relaxed with each other now, and I occasionally open a door for myself, my husband is still the perfect gentleman.
2. He is a romantic
The first time I noticed Craig’s romantic side, I was blown away. I thought romance was for fairy tales and romantic comedies, but he has shown me over the last 5 years that romance is for everyday, ordinary people like us that are lucky enough to have found extraordinary love.
He is always surprising me with little (and sometimes huge) gestures that make my heart melt. I’ll never forget the first time he sang to me or the first time we danced in our kitchen. But more importantly, it is the little stuff that I love the most.
It’s the hand holding, and the “just because” kisses, and the flowers for no reason. It’s the chocolate surprises when I’m grumpy, and the changing of my oil or checking my tire pressure because I’m going on a long drive.
These are things that can sometimes get overlooked, but I appreciate every one of them. I don’t know how the rest of the world defines romance – but this is my definition.
3. He makes me feel sexy
I don’t think I will ever have to wonder if Craig is still attracted to me, because he lets me know it every day.
I can see it in his eyes. I can feel it in his touch. I can hear it in his words.
4. We are a team!
I have had to make some very big decisions over the last few years and for every choice I made, my husband has stood beside me and supported my decision. He offers advice, states his opinion on the matter, then tells me that the decision is ultimately mine.
It’s a great feeling knowing that he is always there to back me up. And I am sure he feels the same way. No matter what we face in life, we are in it together.
5. We are “on the same page”
I have come to this realization more recently. I am not sure if it’s because we spend so much time together, or if being married has allowed us a deeper connection but we are most definitely traveling on the same wavelength. I think this is a must for happy, life-long marriage because we both have the same goals, we both want the same things for our life and for our future. Even on a smaller scale, we both have the same ideal of what our day-to-day life consists of.
6. He values communication
I still remember the first serious conversation we had. We were barely together long enough to even have it, but I remember telling him that I thought it was important to put it all out there because at my age, I didn’t want to waste time with someone who didn’t want the same things in life. That conversation helped build the foundation for our relationship. And so from the very beginning we promised to talk about everything and to never hold anything back. I told him everything. Every little (and big!) secret. I’ve told him things I have never told anyone else and things that I’m ashamed of. Which brings me to…
7. He’s my “judgement-free zone”
Craig accepts me for who I am. He doesn’t judge my past indiscretions. He doesn’t judge my desire to eat massive amounts of chocolate or candy. He doesn’t judge me when I make a decision and then change my mind. He doesn’t judge my laziness or my pajama days. He accepts me for who I am. He is most definitely my “judgement-free zone.”
8. He will cook, clean, wash dishes and do laundry
Need I say more?
9. He is a very handy man
As independent as I was raised to be, I find myself looking to my husband to fix many things. I’m not even sure where he learned how to do all of these things, or maybe he is just learning as he goes, but he can fix anything. Seriously. He fixes and maintains our vehicles. He builds retaining walls and fences. He can handle plumbing & electrical work like a pro. He installs floors, repairs walls and even builds bookcases. My man has skills!
10. He is my best friend
I never understood what it meant to be married to your best friend, until Craig. He is the first one I call when I have exciting news. He’s the keeper of all of my secrets. He is the one I complain to, celebrate with, laugh with. He is the one I want to take on every adventure. We always have so much fun together.
11. He is a great Dad
…to our Mastiff, Lily. In fact, I knew he had potential the first time he met my dogs. Before the end of the night, Lily chewed the back of his shoe, chewed a few buttons and a pocket off of his extra shirt and ate his Blistex. He was not only cool about it but he came back for more. So naturally Lily was excited to have him as a dad. Craig understands that Lily is not just our dog, she’s our baby grrl. She needs love & affection, along with structure and discipline. We can’t just leave her alone all day because we want to have fun. He gives her lots of attention and love, just like a good dad should.
12. The kids love him
I think children are a very good judge of character and our nieces & nephews all love their Uncle Craig! Our one nephew loves him so much that he even declared it during my sister’s toast at our wedding, saying “We love you uncle Craig!”
My other nephew asked for him every time I picked him up from daycare. And my niece, giggles uncontrollably every time she sees him on the screen during our Facetime chats. They love spending time with him and he loves them very much too.
13. He is tall, dark, and handsome
14. He chose me!
Somewhere along the line, Craig decided that I was the one that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. And I am forever grateful.
The list doesn’t really end here, but this post does. There are a million things that I love about my husband and maybe one day I will tell you a few more.